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Feb. 16th, 2026 11:08 amA weekend of visits.
Friday I went over to DQs and put up a bunch of her framed art for her. I also brought home an antique lamp. It looks art deco bu it's probably from the 50s if I look at the wiring. It's lovely. I have always admired it. I may go over next Friday and put in her bedroom a/c because she keeps tripping on it. She said that she would watch my Dad if my sister bails on me. I may be able to even get her to stay over and sleep in the guest bed in my craft room.
Saturday I went with Dad to see his Sister before the surgery. She's 86 and isn't in great shape. I enjoy her a lot. I like talking to her husband, but he can be an old fart at time .hey wanted to go to eat and picked place in Salem. The food was excellent, but since it was Valentine's Day we had a wait. They said they wanted to help in case my Sister bails. I will take it in the Summer when I need a beach Day. At that point if something goes wrong it's just a call to 911 and send him to Boston.
Yesterday I went to the cousins just to fill them in and see my Aunt. She's 97, and while healthy, she is a fall risk. When her time comes I will never hear my Mother's voice again... Her and my Mother sounded a lot a like. The cousins told me they would help in case my sister bails. It's hard though. They are still dealing with stroke cousin whose behavior is deteriorating.
Stroke cousin's doctors have told her that she will never be able to drive and that she needs to live in assisted living. She refuses to sell her car and is over spending. Her Doctor's actually told her to stop listening to the crappy advice her friends are giving her and listen to her med team. It breaks my heart. She was smart, planned for her retirement, independent and travelled. Now she doesn't bath, won't change her clothes, has burned through her savings account buying junk on Amazon, and argues with her friends and family.
My sister has decided not to bring the dog. Their dog trainer felt that the dog wasn't behaved enough to go for such a long trip. She needs consistency. The dog trainer will take the dog and work with her. While my Sister and her partner are sad they will come home to a better trained dog. The dog will be with 6 other dogs and horses. She will be in a home and just sleep in her crate. It's better for her.
My sister is staying in Braintree. From Braintree to Boston will take them a few hours because they will leave at the highest commute time. All I can say is MORONS. Her partner will not want to come and get her and she will be a giant ball of anxiety when I dig her home on the train. I reiterated the help that was needed. Is she going to be able to get to the house by 5:30 when he comes home? That and on Sunday nights I will require her to sleep over. She will be here a month before Dad can even think of coming home. That is no help. I told her that I will need to beg for help the second month he is home and she leaves.
Today I have to figure out if he can get paid family leave from Massachusetts as his job does not have disability or workman's comp. Someone of the LVad face book page from Massachusetts said I need to create an account with the state before I can even see any of the forms. The Lvad team just told me to go to the website and they should help me. I went and no help. I can't call today as it is a holiday. That and the office closes by the time I get home from work. I need some Money to cover his car, and the various insurance bills. They are about $1000 a month.
Friday I went over to DQs and put up a bunch of her framed art for her. I also brought home an antique lamp. It looks art deco bu it's probably from the 50s if I look at the wiring. It's lovely. I have always admired it. I may go over next Friday and put in her bedroom a/c because she keeps tripping on it. She said that she would watch my Dad if my sister bails on me. I may be able to even get her to stay over and sleep in the guest bed in my craft room.
Saturday I went with Dad to see his Sister before the surgery. She's 86 and isn't in great shape. I enjoy her a lot. I like talking to her husband, but he can be an old fart at time .hey wanted to go to eat and picked place in Salem. The food was excellent, but since it was Valentine's Day we had a wait. They said they wanted to help in case my Sister bails. I will take it in the Summer when I need a beach Day. At that point if something goes wrong it's just a call to 911 and send him to Boston.
Yesterday I went to the cousins just to fill them in and see my Aunt. She's 97, and while healthy, she is a fall risk. When her time comes I will never hear my Mother's voice again... Her and my Mother sounded a lot a like. The cousins told me they would help in case my sister bails. It's hard though. They are still dealing with stroke cousin whose behavior is deteriorating.
Stroke cousin's doctors have told her that she will never be able to drive and that she needs to live in assisted living. She refuses to sell her car and is over spending. Her Doctor's actually told her to stop listening to the crappy advice her friends are giving her and listen to her med team. It breaks my heart. She was smart, planned for her retirement, independent and travelled. Now she doesn't bath, won't change her clothes, has burned through her savings account buying junk on Amazon, and argues with her friends and family.
My sister has decided not to bring the dog. Their dog trainer felt that the dog wasn't behaved enough to go for such a long trip. She needs consistency. The dog trainer will take the dog and work with her. While my Sister and her partner are sad they will come home to a better trained dog. The dog will be with 6 other dogs and horses. She will be in a home and just sleep in her crate. It's better for her.
My sister is staying in Braintree. From Braintree to Boston will take them a few hours because they will leave at the highest commute time. All I can say is MORONS. Her partner will not want to come and get her and she will be a giant ball of anxiety when I dig her home on the train. I reiterated the help that was needed. Is she going to be able to get to the house by 5:30 when he comes home? That and on Sunday nights I will require her to sleep over. She will be here a month before Dad can even think of coming home. That is no help. I told her that I will need to beg for help the second month he is home and she leaves.
Today I have to figure out if he can get paid family leave from Massachusetts as his job does not have disability or workman's comp. Someone of the LVad face book page from Massachusetts said I need to create an account with the state before I can even see any of the forms. The Lvad team just told me to go to the website and they should help me. I went and no help. I can't call today as it is a holiday. That and the office closes by the time I get home from work. I need some Money to cover his car, and the various insurance bills. They are about $1000 a month.
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Feb. 13th, 2026 12:55 pmFrankie has been a charming coworker today. I wheeled over the tall chair to my drafting table and made him a bed so he could be with my as I worked...but not sitting on the keyboard.
I have also stopped working since the boss is on vacation in Florida today. She's shopping for a second home for when she retires. She's looking around Tampa.
I have a few more reports to do, but I can do them at my leisure over the weekend.
I have also stopped working since the boss is on vacation in Florida today. She's shopping for a second home for when she retires. She's looking around Tampa.
I have a few more reports to do, but I can do them at my leisure over the weekend.
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Feb. 13th, 2026 05:57 amI am working from home today. Not really great in my headspace, but the boss will take it away from me if I don't use it and fawn over the ability.
Part of what set me off yesterday was posting my Boss's $35k bonus..but yet I can't get her to her and train me.
I am looking forward to spring. This is always a thing for me. It's why I enjoy doing trips in March. The single digit temps are giving me cabin fever and making my skin so uncomfortable. By May I should know what life will entail and get to my garden. In the meantime I think I want to renew my aquarium membership after school vacation so I can get some humidity and just find peace with the giant tanks. I used to enjoy that a lot.
In a plus thing I found a bunch of low sodium recipes that look good and freeze. I will be making Dad chow and freezing so I can feed him at the hospital and free me up later so I can make meals for me that I like. I like making Asian style foods for me...quick, yummy, and chock a block full of sodium. I also bough some of those super cube freezer things so I can portion Dad's freezer meals.
Part of what set me off yesterday was posting my Boss's $35k bonus..but yet I can't get her to her and train me.
I am looking forward to spring. This is always a thing for me. It's why I enjoy doing trips in March. The single digit temps are giving me cabin fever and making my skin so uncomfortable. By May I should know what life will entail and get to my garden. In the meantime I think I want to renew my aquarium membership after school vacation so I can get some humidity and just find peace with the giant tanks. I used to enjoy that a lot.
In a plus thing I found a bunch of low sodium recipes that look good and freeze. I will be making Dad chow and freezing so I can feed him at the hospital and free me up later so I can make meals for me that I like. I like making Asian style foods for me...quick, yummy, and chock a block full of sodium. I also bough some of those super cube freezer things so I can portion Dad's freezer meals.
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Feb. 12th, 2026 06:15 pmI am super discouraged.
I have tried my best to do the right thing. Have common sense. Be responsible.
and I have nothing.
I have tried my best to do the right thing. Have common sense. Be responsible.
and I have nothing.
Fake news and misinformation
Feb. 12th, 2026 01:32 pm[From a conversation at work on Slack about AI slop]
This is why combating misinformation is so difficult. It takes zero effort to make something up, but significant effort to prove them wrong.
It shifts the burden of proof onto the person that's trying to refute the claim.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Brandolini%27s_law
Brandolini's law (or the bullshit asymmetry principle) is an Internet adage coined in 2013 by Italian programmer Alberto Brandolini. It compares the considerable effort of debunking misinformation to the relative ease of creating it in the first place. The adage states:
The amount of energy needed to refute bullshit is an order of magnitude bigger than that needed to produce it.
The challenge of refuting bullshit does not come just from its time-consuming nature, but also from the challenge of defying and confronting one's community.
This is why combating misinformation is so difficult. It takes zero effort to make something up, but significant effort to prove them wrong.
It shifts the burden of proof onto the person that's trying to refute the claim.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Brandolini%27s_law
Brandolini's law (or the bullshit asymmetry principle) is an Internet adage coined in 2013 by Italian programmer Alberto Brandolini. It compares the considerable effort of debunking misinformation to the relative ease of creating it in the first place. The adage states:
The amount of energy needed to refute bullshit is an order of magnitude bigger than that needed to produce it.
The challenge of refuting bullshit does not come just from its time-consuming nature, but also from the challenge of defying and confronting one's community.
The towing saga
Feb. 11th, 2026 07:41 pmSo, the new Forester got towed last month. Finally getting around to writing it down here for posterity’s sake.
I have never had my car towed. Many moons ago, my then boyfriend got his car towed from our parking lot during a storm, even though we had been listening for the plow and hadn’t heard any reason to go out and dig out the cars. Oh yeah, and it was towed on Christmas Day.
( Some deep background info )
( And some less deep background info )
( It’s a long one, with a lot of drama. )
I have never had my car towed. Many moons ago, my then boyfriend got his car towed from our parking lot during a storm, even though we had been listening for the plow and hadn’t heard any reason to go out and dig out the cars. Oh yeah, and it was towed on Christmas Day.
( Some deep background info )
( And some less deep background info )
( It’s a long one, with a lot of drama. )
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Feb. 11th, 2026 09:53 amWe got about 2 - 3 inches of snow overnight at Frogholm, but it's already melting as it's currently 36 and sunny.
Someone buzzed my buzzer at 9:00, and I had just heard the plow go by, so I went out and cleared off the cars. My neighbor with the handicap tags was using the end of his cane to clear off his windows, so I gave him one of my three snow brushes and brushed off his car for him. I brushed off and moved both of my cars, then brushed off Marie's car, since she had brushed off the roof of the Forester for me last week with her extra long handled extendable brush. (I ordered one, it should be arriving today, but we'll see if that arrives or not.)
I took a photo of my car, all brushed off and space plowed, and sent it to our Condo Property Manager. And let her know that I'd shoveled out before the trustee that was taking photos of snowy cars and probably got me towed last week. And also because CPM essentially called me a liar when I told her that my car was cleared and moved last week. Beyotch.
Still no text from CPM that the plow guy is here and to go move our cars.
Someone buzzed my buzzer at 9:00, and I had just heard the plow go by, so I went out and cleared off the cars. My neighbor with the handicap tags was using the end of his cane to clear off his windows, so I gave him one of my three snow brushes and brushed off his car for him. I brushed off and moved both of my cars, then brushed off Marie's car, since she had brushed off the roof of the Forester for me last week with her extra long handled extendable brush. (I ordered one, it should be arriving today, but we'll see if that arrives or not.)
I took a photo of my car, all brushed off and space plowed, and sent it to our Condo Property Manager. And let her know that I'd shoveled out before the trustee that was taking photos of snowy cars and probably got me towed last week. And also because CPM essentially called me a liar when I told her that my car was cleared and moved last week. Beyotch.
Still no text from CPM that the plow guy is here and to go move our cars.
Five Random Things Makes a Post
Feb. 10th, 2026 07:47 pmI dreamt about my first serious boyfriend last night. Which is odd, it’s been a really long time since he popped up in my dreams. I think it was because the hero in the book I was reading was described as being tall and broad of shoulder, and this particular boyfriend was a big guy, think football player (although he was a shotputter and discus thrower, but same general sturdy build). That’s about the only reason I can think of why my subconscious dragged him out for a spin last night.
***
The book I was reading (I finished it last night) was Murder at The Mena House. I bought it two years ago when I ordered a bunch of books set in Egypt to get excited about the (then canceled) RenAdventures tour of Egypt. I finally got around to reading it this weekend. And I don’t quite know what to think when the blurb on the back cover (from a starred review in Library Journal) describes it as,”Nebauuer’s debut dazzles, with a smart plot, remarkable scenery, and skilled execution.” and I thought it was rather a run of the mill mystery.
I have to admit, the author managed to hit most of my least favorite bad mystery tropes. An amateur female detective who isn’t very bright, asks stupid questions of suspects (that should get her killed, if this were not a cosy mystery), has poor judgement about who is honest and trustworthy, and has to be saved by the male love interest (who has a mysterious job which isn’t explained, but is just shady enough to make him suspicious and someone she should NOT trust!). Not to mention multiple inconsistent characters whose behavior makes very little sense, and clunky dialog.
I really don’t like dizzy female amateur detectives who solve the mystery via dumb luck. Despite the fact that there are already seven other books in the series, I don’t think that I will be buying any more of this author’s work.
***
Today’s forecast for 1.5 inches of snow overnight has gone up to two inches. Guess I’ll be brushing off the cars in the morning.
***
No sign of my little friend the mousy the last day or two. I’ve been checking my traps every morning and evening, and it occurred to me that he might be too wee to manage to push open the one-way swinging doors to get inside the Mice Cubes and get at the bait. I’ll have to get the new traps set up ASAP, they have an open door that only snaps shut once the mouse is inside the little plastic tube.
***
I’ve been puttering away at an AI assignment at work for the past week or so. We three database writers are working on a project to show how our databases work together (if properly configured). Because none of us are overly familiar with each other’s products, it’s sort of default that we have to use AI to help us write this up. And while I’d been picking at it, I hadn't made much progress. And then I accidentally erased my work and had to do it over again. D’oh!
Last week I published two sets of Release Notes for patch releases, and another Helm charts release. I released another update to the Helm charts today (I would have done it yesterday, but GitHub was down for hours. F*cking Microsoft, they ruin everything they touch. GitHub has been shyte ever since they bought it.)
And then yesterday I finally got the first half of my AI assignment submitted as a pull request, so that it can be reviewed. So that felt good, to finally get that unblocked. I started on part two, and almost got finished today, but then my brain decided to go for a wander, and I couldn’t get my concentration back. So first thing tomorrow, while I’m fresh, I should be able to get that finished. I also generated some stub topics for a project that I don’t even need to have done until mid-April. So feeling pretty productive, even if I didn’t finish what I’d hoped to finish today.
***
The book I was reading (I finished it last night) was Murder at The Mena House. I bought it two years ago when I ordered a bunch of books set in Egypt to get excited about the (then canceled) RenAdventures tour of Egypt. I finally got around to reading it this weekend. And I don’t quite know what to think when the blurb on the back cover (from a starred review in Library Journal) describes it as,”Nebauuer’s debut dazzles, with a smart plot, remarkable scenery, and skilled execution.” and I thought it was rather a run of the mill mystery.
I have to admit, the author managed to hit most of my least favorite bad mystery tropes. An amateur female detective who isn’t very bright, asks stupid questions of suspects (that should get her killed, if this were not a cosy mystery), has poor judgement about who is honest and trustworthy, and has to be saved by the male love interest (who has a mysterious job which isn’t explained, but is just shady enough to make him suspicious and someone she should NOT trust!). Not to mention multiple inconsistent characters whose behavior makes very little sense, and clunky dialog.
I really don’t like dizzy female amateur detectives who solve the mystery via dumb luck. Despite the fact that there are already seven other books in the series, I don’t think that I will be buying any more of this author’s work.
***
Today’s forecast for 1.5 inches of snow overnight has gone up to two inches. Guess I’ll be brushing off the cars in the morning.
***
No sign of my little friend the mousy the last day or two. I’ve been checking my traps every morning and evening, and it occurred to me that he might be too wee to manage to push open the one-way swinging doors to get inside the Mice Cubes and get at the bait. I’ll have to get the new traps set up ASAP, they have an open door that only snaps shut once the mouse is inside the little plastic tube.
***
I’ve been puttering away at an AI assignment at work for the past week or so. We three database writers are working on a project to show how our databases work together (if properly configured). Because none of us are overly familiar with each other’s products, it’s sort of default that we have to use AI to help us write this up. And while I’d been picking at it, I hadn't made much progress. And then I accidentally erased my work and had to do it over again. D’oh!
Last week I published two sets of Release Notes for patch releases, and another Helm charts release. I released another update to the Helm charts today (I would have done it yesterday, but GitHub was down for hours. F*cking Microsoft, they ruin everything they touch. GitHub has been shyte ever since they bought it.)
And then yesterday I finally got the first half of my AI assignment submitted as a pull request, so that it can be reviewed. So that felt good, to finally get that unblocked. I started on part two, and almost got finished today, but then my brain decided to go for a wander, and I couldn’t get my concentration back. So first thing tomorrow, while I’m fresh, I should be able to get that finished. I also generated some stub topics for a project that I don’t even need to have done until mid-April. So feeling pretty productive, even if I didn’t finish what I’d hoped to finish today.
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Feb. 10th, 2026 06:10 pmI sent my sister the contact info for her to send in her FLMA paperwork. She is sending it in tomorrow.
I found out that they are still looking for a house to rent...but if they can't find one they will stay at the Hotel in Braintree. Ummm... traffic. Ummmm... there is no way for my sister to get anywhere on her own from there. There is no way she is going to be at the house for me to leave to go to work. I'm going to have to have dad be alone from 5:30 AM until she gets her ass here. He partner does not like to wake up early, never mind just to drive her here and then the partner go back to Braintree. And when Dad is in the hospital and my sister wants to hover over him...they won't leave Braintree until 11 or so and will get stuck in 2 hours of traffic so no one will be with him until I am done with work...anyway.
I asked if she looked at the hotel across the street from the train station that is a mile away from the house. They take pets for $100 extra a day. That and she can walk to the house...and no one will bother her with a Great Dane. She said it would be too early to walk. Ummm...just how do you think I have gotten myself to work for the last 43 years?
Normal people would just stay in my apartment.
Part of me thinks I should strip the place just in case they figure that it will cost way too much money. My Texas Uncle pays $6000 to stay for 3 weeks when he is here.
Today I warned the boss that my sister may flake out on me. I can't tell.
I found out that they are still looking for a house to rent...but if they can't find one they will stay at the Hotel in Braintree. Ummm... traffic. Ummmm... there is no way for my sister to get anywhere on her own from there. There is no way she is going to be at the house for me to leave to go to work. I'm going to have to have dad be alone from 5:30 AM until she gets her ass here. He partner does not like to wake up early, never mind just to drive her here and then the partner go back to Braintree. And when Dad is in the hospital and my sister wants to hover over him...they won't leave Braintree until 11 or so and will get stuck in 2 hours of traffic so no one will be with him until I am done with work...anyway.
I asked if she looked at the hotel across the street from the train station that is a mile away from the house. They take pets for $100 extra a day. That and she can walk to the house...and no one will bother her with a Great Dane. She said it would be too early to walk. Ummm...just how do you think I have gotten myself to work for the last 43 years?
Normal people would just stay in my apartment.
Part of me thinks I should strip the place just in case they figure that it will cost way too much money. My Texas Uncle pays $6000 to stay for 3 weeks when he is here.
Today I warned the boss that my sister may flake out on me. I can't tell.
Update on legal cases: one new victory! :) One new restriction :(
Feb. 10th, 2026 03:03 pmBack in August of 2025, we announced a temporary block on account creation for users under the age of 18 from the state of Tennessee, due to the court in Netchoice's challenge to the law (which we're a part of!) refusing to prevent the law from being enforced while the lawsuit plays out. Today, I am sad to announce that we've had to add South Carolina to that list. When creating an account, you will now be asked if you're a resident of Tennessee or South Carolina. If you are, and your birthdate shows you're under 18, you won't be able to create an account.
We're very sorry to have to do this, and especially on such short notice. The reason for it: on Friday, South Carolina governor Henry McMaster signed the South Carolina Age-Appropriate Design Code Act into law, with an effective date of immediately. The law is so incredibly poorly written it took us several days to even figure out what the hell South Carolina wants us to do and whether or not we're covered by it. We're still not entirely 100% sure about the former, but in regards to the latter, we're pretty sure the fact we use Google Analytics on some site pages (for OS/platform/browser capability analysis) means we will be covered by the law. Thankfully, the law does not mandate a specific form of age verification, unlike many of the other state laws we're fighting, so we're likewise pretty sure that just stopping people under 18 from creating an account will be enough to comply without performing intrusive and privacy-invasive third-party age verification. We think. Maybe. (It's a really, really badly written law. I don't know whether they intended to write it in a way that means officers of the company can potentially be sentenced to jail time for violating it, but that's certainly one possible way to read it.)
Netchoice filed their lawsuit against SC over the law as I was working on making this change and writing this news post -- so recently it's not even showing up in RECAP yet for me to link y'all to! -- but here's the complaint as filed in the lawsuit, Netchoice v Wilson. Please note that I didn't even have to write the declaration yet (although I will be): we are cited in the complaint itself with a link to our August news post as evidence of why these laws burden small websites and create legal uncertainty that causes a chilling effect on speech. \o/
In fact, that's the victory: in December, the judge ruled in favor of Netchoice in Netchoice v Murrill, the lawsuit over Louisiana's age-verification law Act 456, finding (once again) that requiring age verification to access social media is unconstitutional. Judge deGravelles' ruling was not simply a preliminary injunction: this was a final, dispositive ruling stating clearly and unambiguously "Louisiana Revised Statutes §§51:1751–1754 violate the First Amendment of the U.S. Constitution, as incorporated by the Fourteenth Amendment of the U.S. Constitution", as well as awarding Netchoice their costs and attorney's fees for bringing the lawsuit. We didn't provide a declaration in that one, because Act 456, may it rot in hell, had a total registered user threshold we don't meet. That didn't stop Netchoice's lawyers from pointing out that we were forced to block service to Mississippi and restrict registration in Tennessee (pointing, again, to that news post), and Judge deGravelles found our example so compelling that we are cited twice in his ruling, thus marking the first time we've helped to get one of these laws enjoined or overturned just by existing. I think that's a new career high point for me.
I need to find an afternoon to sit down and write an update for
dw_advocacy highlighting everything that's going on (and what stage the lawsuits are in), because folks who know there's Some Shenanigans afoot in their state keep asking us whether we're going to have to put any restrictions on their states. I'll repeat my promise to you all: we will fight every state attempt to impose mandatory age verification and deanonymization on our users as hard as we possibly can, and we will keep actions like this to the clear cases where there's no doubt that we have to take action in order to prevent liability.
In cases like SC, where the law takes immediate effect, or like TN and MS, where the district court declines to issue a temporary injunction or the district court issues a temporary injunction and the appellate court overturns it, we may need to take some steps to limit our potential liability: when that happens, we'll tell you what we're doing as fast as we possibly can. (Sometimes it takes a little while for us to figure out the exact implications of a newly passed law or run the risk assessment on a law that the courts declined to enjoin. Netchoice's lawyers are excellent, but they're Netchoice's lawyers, not ours: we have to figure out our obligations ourselves. I am so very thankful that even though we are poor in money, we are very rich in friends, and we have a wide range of people we can go to for help.)
In cases where Netchoice filed the lawsuit before the law's effective date, there's a pending motion for a preliminary injunction, the court hasn't ruled on the motion yet, and we're specifically named in the motion for preliminary injunction as a Netchoice member the law would apply to, we generally evaluate that the risk is low enough we can wait and see what the judge decides. (Right now, for instance, that's Netchoice v Jones, formerly Netchoice v Miyares, mentioned in our December news post: the judge has not yet ruled on the motion for preliminary injunction.) If the judge grants the injunction, we won't need to do anything, because the state will be prevented from enforcing the law. If the judge doesn't grant the injunction, we'll figure out what we need to do then, and we'll let you know as soon as we know.
I know it's frustrating for people to not know what's going to happen! Believe me, it's just as frustrating for us: you would not believe how much of my time is taken up by tracking all of this. I keep trying to find time to update
dw_advocacy so people know the status of all the various lawsuits (and what actions we've taken in response), but every time I think I might have a second, something else happens like this SC law and I have to scramble to figure out what we need to do. We will continue to update
dw_news whenever we do have to take an action that restricts any of our users, though, as soon as something happens that may make us have to take an action, and we will give you as much warning as we possibly can. It is absolutely ridiculous that we still have to have this fight, but we're going to keep fighting it for as long as we have to and as hard as we need to.
I look forward to the day we can lift the restrictions on Mississippi, Tennessee, and now South Carolina, and I apologize again to our users (and to the people who temporarily aren't able to become our users) from those states.
We're very sorry to have to do this, and especially on such short notice. The reason for it: on Friday, South Carolina governor Henry McMaster signed the South Carolina Age-Appropriate Design Code Act into law, with an effective date of immediately. The law is so incredibly poorly written it took us several days to even figure out what the hell South Carolina wants us to do and whether or not we're covered by it. We're still not entirely 100% sure about the former, but in regards to the latter, we're pretty sure the fact we use Google Analytics on some site pages (for OS/platform/browser capability analysis) means we will be covered by the law. Thankfully, the law does not mandate a specific form of age verification, unlike many of the other state laws we're fighting, so we're likewise pretty sure that just stopping people under 18 from creating an account will be enough to comply without performing intrusive and privacy-invasive third-party age verification. We think. Maybe. (It's a really, really badly written law. I don't know whether they intended to write it in a way that means officers of the company can potentially be sentenced to jail time for violating it, but that's certainly one possible way to read it.)
Netchoice filed their lawsuit against SC over the law as I was working on making this change and writing this news post -- so recently it's not even showing up in RECAP yet for me to link y'all to! -- but here's the complaint as filed in the lawsuit, Netchoice v Wilson. Please note that I didn't even have to write the declaration yet (although I will be): we are cited in the complaint itself with a link to our August news post as evidence of why these laws burden small websites and create legal uncertainty that causes a chilling effect on speech. \o/
In fact, that's the victory: in December, the judge ruled in favor of Netchoice in Netchoice v Murrill, the lawsuit over Louisiana's age-verification law Act 456, finding (once again) that requiring age verification to access social media is unconstitutional. Judge deGravelles' ruling was not simply a preliminary injunction: this was a final, dispositive ruling stating clearly and unambiguously "Louisiana Revised Statutes §§51:1751–1754 violate the First Amendment of the U.S. Constitution, as incorporated by the Fourteenth Amendment of the U.S. Constitution", as well as awarding Netchoice their costs and attorney's fees for bringing the lawsuit. We didn't provide a declaration in that one, because Act 456, may it rot in hell, had a total registered user threshold we don't meet. That didn't stop Netchoice's lawyers from pointing out that we were forced to block service to Mississippi and restrict registration in Tennessee (pointing, again, to that news post), and Judge deGravelles found our example so compelling that we are cited twice in his ruling, thus marking the first time we've helped to get one of these laws enjoined or overturned just by existing. I think that's a new career high point for me.
I need to find an afternoon to sit down and write an update for
In cases like SC, where the law takes immediate effect, or like TN and MS, where the district court declines to issue a temporary injunction or the district court issues a temporary injunction and the appellate court overturns it, we may need to take some steps to limit our potential liability: when that happens, we'll tell you what we're doing as fast as we possibly can. (Sometimes it takes a little while for us to figure out the exact implications of a newly passed law or run the risk assessment on a law that the courts declined to enjoin. Netchoice's lawyers are excellent, but they're Netchoice's lawyers, not ours: we have to figure out our obligations ourselves. I am so very thankful that even though we are poor in money, we are very rich in friends, and we have a wide range of people we can go to for help.)
In cases where Netchoice filed the lawsuit before the law's effective date, there's a pending motion for a preliminary injunction, the court hasn't ruled on the motion yet, and we're specifically named in the motion for preliminary injunction as a Netchoice member the law would apply to, we generally evaluate that the risk is low enough we can wait and see what the judge decides. (Right now, for instance, that's Netchoice v Jones, formerly Netchoice v Miyares, mentioned in our December news post: the judge has not yet ruled on the motion for preliminary injunction.) If the judge grants the injunction, we won't need to do anything, because the state will be prevented from enforcing the law. If the judge doesn't grant the injunction, we'll figure out what we need to do then, and we'll let you know as soon as we know.
I know it's frustrating for people to not know what's going to happen! Believe me, it's just as frustrating for us: you would not believe how much of my time is taken up by tracking all of this. I keep trying to find time to update
I look forward to the day we can lift the restrictions on Mississippi, Tennessee, and now South Carolina, and I apologize again to our users (and to the people who temporarily aren't able to become our users) from those states.
Superb Owl Sunday
Feb. 9th, 2026 03:45 pmI did not watch the Super Bowl yesterday. I can’t remember the last time I watched, I’m sure it was more than a decade ago. I don't follow the Patriots, and I don't follow football, so if I watch, it's mostly for the commercials and the halftime show, and neither one has interested me much in the past couple of years.
I woke up earlyish this morning, and lay in bed for about an hour, reading all the various posts on Facebook about Bad Bunny’s halftime show. Breaking down his guests (Lady Gaga, Ricky Martin), the story about the couple who invited him to their wedding, and he invited them to get married during his halftime show (yes, it was a real wedding! apparently he signed their wedding certificate as a witness), and all the people who were onscreen for maybe only seconds (Jessica Alba, Cardi B, Pedro Pascal). I also saw speculation that the kid he handed his Grammy to was Liam Conejo Ramos — the boy from Minneapolis who had been deported with his father by ICE, but apparently it was a child actor named Lincoln Fox.
The various bits and pieces looked interesting, so at lunchtime I headed over to YouTube and watched the whole halftime show instead of just the bits and pieces I'd already watched. And it was immediately clear that I am NOT his target audience. And not just because I don’t speak Spanish. All the crotch grabbing and twerking let me know that I’ve aged out of his demographic (even if I did grow up with Michael Jackson grabbing his crotch, I still think it’s vulgar and unnecessary). And while the various posts I'd read had pointed out various cultural references (backgrounds from his videos, people from his neighborhood) they were not put in there for me to catch. His performance was a love letter to Latin America, and especially Puerto Rico, I wasn’t going to understand most of it, except for the LOVE part.
“THE ONLY THING MORE POWERFUL THAN HATE IS LOVE.”
Someone posted a screenshot of someone else’s post, reading This halftime show is what people mean when they say “joy is an act of resistance.” I'm glad he made such good use of this moment in spotlight. Proud to count him as a fellow American.
I woke up earlyish this morning, and lay in bed for about an hour, reading all the various posts on Facebook about Bad Bunny’s halftime show. Breaking down his guests (Lady Gaga, Ricky Martin), the story about the couple who invited him to their wedding, and he invited them to get married during his halftime show (yes, it was a real wedding! apparently he signed their wedding certificate as a witness), and all the people who were onscreen for maybe only seconds (Jessica Alba, Cardi B, Pedro Pascal). I also saw speculation that the kid he handed his Grammy to was Liam Conejo Ramos — the boy from Minneapolis who had been deported with his father by ICE, but apparently it was a child actor named Lincoln Fox.
The various bits and pieces looked interesting, so at lunchtime I headed over to YouTube and watched the whole halftime show instead of just the bits and pieces I'd already watched. And it was immediately clear that I am NOT his target audience. And not just because I don’t speak Spanish. All the crotch grabbing and twerking let me know that I’ve aged out of his demographic (even if I did grow up with Michael Jackson grabbing his crotch, I still think it’s vulgar and unnecessary). And while the various posts I'd read had pointed out various cultural references (backgrounds from his videos, people from his neighborhood) they were not put in there for me to catch. His performance was a love letter to Latin America, and especially Puerto Rico, I wasn’t going to understand most of it, except for the LOVE part.
“THE ONLY THING MORE POWERFUL THAN HATE IS LOVE.”
Someone posted a screenshot of someone else’s post, reading This halftime show is what people mean when they say “joy is an act of resistance.” I'm glad he made such good use of this moment in spotlight. Proud to count him as a fellow American.
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Feb. 7th, 2026 08:45 amStill feeling punky.
I also feel like I am preparing for a siege.
I think Dad will do okay. I don't think I will.
I spoke to my sister last night. She is not doing what I need. She wants to be here a couple days before Dad goes in so he can meet the dog. Ummm... sigh. But they were planning to start the drive on the Monday and he is going in on the Tuesday so that won't happen. She wants to be here for the surgery and the month he is in the hospital. So she won't be here for half home rehab stuff that I was counting on. She, her partner, and their giant puppy will be annoying me when I need to be at the hospital.
I told her my needs and that I am disappointed.
She is mad that I am not taking the day off for the surgery. I said that I work in the building. I have waited 13 hours in a waiting room for procedures and days worth of hours in ERs. Unless the heart surgeon needs me to pass him the scalpel, I can't be any closer.
And I will now have to beg for help from other people for the second month home. That comes with a price. The cousins love Dad, truly, so I will see if I can tap them. Lead cousin has already said that she would learn to clean his driveline dressings incase I am sick. That puts me in their madness.
I have decided that while she is hanging around I will go out at night while I can.
I have art and cooking projects planned for while he is healing. I know how to be domestic and I dont mind it. It's working and domestics and nursing care... If I were 65 I'd just retire and try selling crafts.
I also know I can gut my small 401k to help save the house if I have to.
I also feel like I am preparing for a siege.
I think Dad will do okay. I don't think I will.
I spoke to my sister last night. She is not doing what I need. She wants to be here a couple days before Dad goes in so he can meet the dog. Ummm... sigh. But they were planning to start the drive on the Monday and he is going in on the Tuesday so that won't happen. She wants to be here for the surgery and the month he is in the hospital. So she won't be here for half home rehab stuff that I was counting on. She, her partner, and their giant puppy will be annoying me when I need to be at the hospital.
I told her my needs and that I am disappointed.
She is mad that I am not taking the day off for the surgery. I said that I work in the building. I have waited 13 hours in a waiting room for procedures and days worth of hours in ERs. Unless the heart surgeon needs me to pass him the scalpel, I can't be any closer.
And I will now have to beg for help from other people for the second month home. That comes with a price. The cousins love Dad, truly, so I will see if I can tap them. Lead cousin has already said that she would learn to clean his driveline dressings incase I am sick. That puts me in their madness.
I have decided that while she is hanging around I will go out at night while I can.
I have art and cooking projects planned for while he is healing. I know how to be domestic and I dont mind it. It's working and domestics and nursing care... If I were 65 I'd just retire and try selling crafts.
I also know I can gut my small 401k to help save the house if I have to.
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Feb. 5th, 2026 06:17 pmThe hospital called today.
The neurosurgeon said that Dad's big eye veins were unremarkable and cleared him for Heart Surgery.
The cardiac surgeons office called. I wanted surgery in March. They booked it for February 26th. Not quite, but close enough not to change. They will want him in on the 24th. I've got 2 weeks of his pay to work with for his bills.
So much to do... glad I am clearing the cold.
Trying not to go into panic mode.
The neurosurgeon said that Dad's big eye veins were unremarkable and cleared him for Heart Surgery.
The cardiac surgeons office called. I wanted surgery in March. They booked it for February 26th. Not quite, but close enough not to change. They will want him in on the 24th. I've got 2 weeks of his pay to work with for his bills.
So much to do... glad I am clearing the cold.
Trying not to go into panic mode.
Wee bugger
Feb. 5th, 2026 10:26 amYesterday I checked my traps first thing in the morning. No mouse.
I kept my eyes out for quick, furtive movements along the baseboards while I worked. No mouse.
I checked the traps one more time before I headed to bed. No mouse.
I went into the bathroom to pee, and guess what ran along the base of the vanity and behind the toilet while I was in there? That f*cking wee mouse. He's tiny, about the size of a cotton ball. But still, I do not like encountering vermin while I have my pants down around my ankles. I was hoping to drop a bucket over him when I got my pants back on, but he zipped back out the door and under the washing machine. Speedy little f*cker.
I ordered more mouse traps yesterday. I plan to win this season of Julie vs. the Mouse.
I kept my eyes out for quick, furtive movements along the baseboards while I worked. No mouse.
I checked the traps one more time before I headed to bed. No mouse.
I went into the bathroom to pee, and guess what ran along the base of the vanity and behind the toilet while I was in there? That f*cking wee mouse. He's tiny, about the size of a cotton ball. But still, I do not like encountering vermin while I have my pants down around my ankles. I was hoping to drop a bucket over him when I got my pants back on, but he zipped back out the door and under the washing machine. Speedy little f*cker.
I ordered more mouse traps yesterday. I plan to win this season of Julie vs. the Mouse.
Splat
Feb. 4th, 2026 05:30 pmOne of the very few advantages of having a fat arse is that it doesn't hurt quite so much when you find that patch of black ice in the parking lot and land on your arse on your way to the dumpster with your trash.
I'm fine. My dignity was more bruised than anything. I have definitely had worse wipe outs on ice in the past. This time I just landed on an overly padded hip and cursed a bit. So awkward trying to get up when you're on ice. =P
So, how was your day today?
I'm fine. My dignity was more bruised than anything. I have definitely had worse wipe outs on ice in the past. This time I just landed on an overly padded hip and cursed a bit. So awkward trying to get up when you're on ice. =P
So, how was your day today?
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Feb. 4th, 2026 12:43 pmHappy to be feeling better.
I really thought we were going to get that second snow storm and I would be working from home Monday, but the snow gods spared us. I did go in because you alway feel great after a shower, but around 9 AM I wish I hadn't. I had a few hard coughing fits then went on a while. The type of cough that makes you feel like muscles are ripping and that you are going to cough up your spine.
Needless to say it's been work and bed. Today is not so bad and I am working from home. No cough. Some sneezes. A bit of a stuffy head, but I can think so it's good.
No word on any discussion on Dad. I know the LVad team meets Mondays so I thought I would hear back, but I bet people are just sick with the crud like I am. I know the LVad nurse has been home with it and she has small kids.
I need to get Dad's taxes done and look into some financials. See if the hospital social worker can help me with some papers. I have made an appointment with a palliative care doctor incase Dad can't have the surgery.
The boss wants me to train in case something bad happens. I told her I would as soon as I was't sick. I will begin next week. Sadly I found out the guy that I'm supposed to train no longer wants to so he will be reluctant. That will take the nice out of it, but I've trained like that before.
I have a desire to get out of the house. Cabin fever sucks when the temps are arctic. I need a long long walk...either on a beach or in the woods. Soon.
I really thought we were going to get that second snow storm and I would be working from home Monday, but the snow gods spared us. I did go in because you alway feel great after a shower, but around 9 AM I wish I hadn't. I had a few hard coughing fits then went on a while. The type of cough that makes you feel like muscles are ripping and that you are going to cough up your spine.
Needless to say it's been work and bed. Today is not so bad and I am working from home. No cough. Some sneezes. A bit of a stuffy head, but I can think so it's good.
No word on any discussion on Dad. I know the LVad team meets Mondays so I thought I would hear back, but I bet people are just sick with the crud like I am. I know the LVad nurse has been home with it and she has small kids.
I need to get Dad's taxes done and look into some financials. See if the hospital social worker can help me with some papers. I have made an appointment with a palliative care doctor incase Dad can't have the surgery.
The boss wants me to train in case something bad happens. I told her I would as soon as I was't sick. I will begin next week. Sadly I found out the guy that I'm supposed to train no longer wants to so he will be reluctant. That will take the nice out of it, but I've trained like that before.
I have a desire to get out of the house. Cabin fever sucks when the temps are arctic. I need a long long walk...either on a beach or in the woods. Soon.
Minor operations; testing new serving path
Feb. 3rd, 2026 10:25 pmHi all!
I'm doing some minor operational work tonight. It should be transparent, but there's always a chance that something goes wrong. The main thing I'm touching is testing a replacement for Apache2 (our web server software) in one area of the site.
Thank you!